Today on Valentine’s Day, we all think about our soulmate, that special someone to love, to share ourselves with. Even for those who are currently single, we think about having that special someone in our life, all the things we would like to do with them and for them. I am one to say that it is a basic need to love and be loved. There is nothing wrong with wanting a soulmate, with wanting someone to share yourself with, your thoughts, your dreams, to do things with. It seems like when it comes to the one that we love, we can be so committed to them and that is important. However, one of the things that I have learned is that there is an even more important commitment that we all have and that commitment comes before any commitment that we may have with anyone and that is that commitment to ourselves.
If on this Valentine’s Day you are single and it seems that your soulmate is not any where near, you have to remember that before that commitment that you will have with that other person, you have to have that commitment with yourself. Make that commitment to love yourself, to be caring, to pamper, to respect and honor yourself. One of the biggest mistakes that you can make, trust me I have made this mistake myself and can tell you that it is detrimental to your well-being, is that if a guy/woman doesn’t see the value in you, then you may think that there is something wrong with you or that there isn’t much value in you. This could not be further from the truth. Just because someone can not see your value doesn’t mean there isn’t any value in you! It takes a discerning eye to be able to see how valuable you are.
That person that needs to see your value first is you. Another lesson learned. But it is so crucial. When you are able to see your own value, you don’t accept less than you deserve. You are not tolerant of unacceptable behaviors and you expect others to respect you. That expectancy of respect others will notice and will draw the right people to you.
You have to make that commitment to have a positive relationship with yourself. This can be a tough one at times but what I mean with this is that although you will have your tough times, you do your best not to be hard on yourself. You keep trying to do your best with what you have. You treat yourself with respect, you care about the way you treat yourself and you care about the way others treat you. This relationship that you have with yourself is a very important one because this determines a lot of the decisions that you make. For instance, if you have a negative relationship with yourself, you don’t treat yourself with the respect that you deserve and this can result in you allowing others to mistreat you.
And even if you are currently in a relationship, it is important not to forget that commitment that you have with yourself. That commitment that you make to yourself has a big impact on your overall well-being and life. Just like you would give so much love, respect and care to your soulmate/partner, you need to do the same for yourself. Remember that same commitment you would have for that special someone you have to have that for yourself as well. With this said, I wish you all a very Happy Valentine’s Day.