Many times I have placed myself in situations where I don’t think I meant to hurt myself but I did. I had shed many tears unnecessarily, I have been disappointed by others many times and all this despite all the evidence staring at me in my face that I should get out of the situation in which I got myself in. I think most of us can familiarize with this feeling and situation and I can only tell you from personal experience that for your well-being, don’t place yourself in situations where you will be hurt!
But why do we place ourselves in hurtful situations? How can we avoid this to begin with? First off, as human beings we all have needs. Need to be loved, need for attention, need for connection, need to feel needed, need for that feeling of importance. Because of these basic needs we can find ourselves in situations that had it not been because of these needs, we would not have placed ourselves in those situations to begin with. This is the reason why it is so important to understand yourself, oh how powerful it is to understand yourself, and what your needs are. This simple understanding can uncover a lot of what we have in our subconscious and can reveal to us what holds us back from the life we truly long. So start by understanding what your needs and wants are.
Love yourself! Truly, when you love yourself, you won’t allow anyone to hurt you or treat you any less than you deserve. You won’t even settle for situations that you don’t deserve, i.e. get involved with someone who is unavailable, among other stuff. When you love yourself, you understand your worth as a person or woman/man and so you will only accept situations or people that are worthy of you.
When you find yourself already in a situation where you can see that you are heading towards the “hurt” road, stop for a second. Ask yourself why you are driving down that road. If you need outside feedback, ask someone you love and trust what they think about the situation. You will be surprised how much you can open your eyes with some outside perspective about the situation. Truly dig inside you to understand what leads you to drive down this hurtful road.
Ask yourself, “if you can be in any situation or have anything in life, what would it be?” For example, if what you are looking for is true love and all you keep attracting are unavailable men or women, really ask yourself what do you want. Do you really want to be in a situation where you know you won’t be heading where you want to go? If you are trying to go to California, I’m pretty sure you won’t catch a plane going to Montana, would you? So ask yourself why you are doing this same exact thing in other situations in your life. This will help you think more about where you want to be and will help get your antennas working properly to really be on the look out for what you truly want and deserve.
This is just some of the many things that you can do in order to understand yourself more, get more of what you want in life and get what you truly deserve. You DESERVE more out of life. You don’t have to be content with situations that are somewhat nice or just plain not healthy.